Six simple 'D' mantras for happiness

'LET EVERYONE be happy'. All philosophies unilaterally accept this declaration. The moment we think 'how to be happy' we acknowledge the feeling that we are unhappy. What could be the root cause of unhappiness?
In the present age everyone is focused on earning. Most of us, while performing our duties are more conscious of pain than pleasure and this painful realisation, rather unhappiness, results in anger, greed and lust. By turning away from these three entrances to the realm of unhappiness and behaving according to one's own highest good certainly results in happiness.
Happiness cannot be bought from anywhere. The question that arises then is how can one get happiness? Happiness is a state of mind. In short, it exists in man's mind. Mind is the substratum of happiness as well as of unhappiness. Hence, we must give inputs to the mind. The mind is to be fed with right knowledge rather than information. Happiness can be realised by knowledge. Knowledge comes by mastery over a object or subject.
Here are six simple 'D' mantras that are imperative to get into the realm of happiness irrespective of your profession, vocation and age.
Duty:
Do thy duty. That is a dictum that runs from ages. If a person does his duty, he will certainly be happy. There is no free lunch as we all know. This is an eternal law. It may not strike us, but sooner or later, the realisation will dawn on us. Our duty determines what we deserve and what we can assimilate. All work/duty is simply to bring out the power of the mind, which is already there. Duty is thus to be done irrespective of the circumstances.
Discipline:
A disciplined man is almost half successful. He does his duty and that brings happiness. It eliminates fear, and inferiority. That enthuses him to be creative. A disciplined mind distinguishes between right and wrong. A disciplined mind is fearless, so it does help in doing the right things.
Determination:
"He only is a well-made man who has a good determination". Determination shows the strength of a man's mind! It yields dedication and devotion. A decisive mind removes confusion and doubts thereby it endows intellectual satisfaction. A determined man is balanced and positive and that makes him happy.
Dexterity:
To create something novel, to invent anew, to attain great skills are all laudatory. But unless one is a master of his domain it is not easy to achieve success. To achieve one's ambition one needs to have dexterity. Dexterity here does not just mean being skillful with one's hands or body agility. It means one needs to be mentally alert to the best level. A person who is mentally conscious of his duties and responsibilities will never while away time in pondering over the unnecessary. His approach will be - hard work coupled with selflessness to achieve success and happiness.
To realise true happiness one must work incessantly with devotion and determination.
Decentralisation:
Here we use the term decentralised to mean socialising. Decentralisation makes one healthy and happy. Avoid being possessive.
If a person is self-centered, people do not consider him good. From sharing emanates happiness.
And unselfishness frees man from false ego, which is the cause of unhappiness. Therefore, to be happy, be decentralised.
Delightfulness:

A contented man is a delighted man. And the secret of happiness is satisfaction. One must love his work/duty. This is possible only if he is passionate about his work. In essence, 'performing duty with discipline and determination results in dexterousness. And a decentralised man is a delighted man".

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Do you get angry a lot?

If you "fly off the handle" easily you may risk serious illness, so it's important to know how often you place yourself at risk. Everyone gets angry occasionally. But people who "fly off the handle" easily may be at risk for heart disease or other illnesses, so it's important to know how often you place yourself at risk. Men are at greater risk for these illnesses than women. Score 1 if the statement is never true for you, 2 if it's sometimes true, 3 if it's often true, and 4 if it's always true. SCORE STATEMENT It doesn't take much to get me mad. People tell me I should calm down. I blow up at terrible drivers. If I'm upset, I'll hit the dog or cat. People call me hotheaded. I'm furious about the way I get treated at restaurants or stores. Often other people's mistakes slow me down, it can upset me for the whole day. If things are bad enough, I'll throw things. I swear loudly to blow off steam. I feel like hitting someone who makes me very angry. I've been told I have a bad temper. If you embarrass me in front of someone, I'll be furious. I'm a very ambitious person, so sometimes I get impatient and angry with other people. I've been known to break things when I'm frustrated. TOTAL SCORE What Your Score Means If you score 18 or below, you have a high temper threshold, and are able to stay calm in situations which would frustrate many others. This helps you manage your stress levels. If you score 19-27, you get angry about as often as most people. To reduce your score, practice the hints below. If you score 28-35, you might be under too much stress, or getting angry may be a habit. Take this score seriously, and begin to make changes now, before it affects your health. If you score over 35, and you continue with your behaviors and attitudes, you risk serious stress-related disease. Work your way down the list below and take the test again. Repeat until your score is in the normal range. It may help to speak to a counselor about other ways to deal with your anger. Hints That Help You'll be happier and easier to live with if you try these hints every day: Say "I was wrong" to someone. Think about when and where you learned your reactions to anger. Spend 10 minutes sitting in a park or garden. Laugh at a joke, situation or yourself. Read something for pleasure. Avoid doing two things at once (such as eating and reading). Try to relax and gain perspective on your life.

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